206 Appendix B F impending confrontation is what the person needs if he or she is going to move forward, then you can feel confident about it even if you're nervous. But you still have to make sure that the words you choose communicate your good intention and that some of your other feelings (perhaps justifiable, but less honorable) don't creep in and inadvertently contaminate the message. You need to clarify your intent so that you're not con- cerned about doing something that is not good in your own es- timation. That way, you can proceed with confidence that this is what this person needs--even if the person isn't going to like it--and that the person can absolutely count on you to be there beside him or her, working through it. Usually when you decide to confront someone it's because you understand that for the performer to improve, he or she needs to be doing something differently; the person needs to