Big Boss

If you're the big boss, what the team needs most from you is courage, confidence, and occasional insistence that they do what they say they do. It is likely to be difficult for you to work with the team at first. They are going to ask you to check up on them frequently. They are going to explain the consequences of changes in the situation. For example, if you don't get them the new tester they asked for, they will explain exactly what they think that will do to the schedule. If you don't like their answer, they will invite you to reduce the scope of the project.

Coming from an XP team, this constitutes honest communication. They aren't whining, really they aren't. They want you to know as soon as possible when things are differing from the plan, so you have as much time to react as possible.