Coaching for Mental Toughness 181 If you would find it helpful, take a few moments of self-reflection to consider how you would rate yourself in these skills. How would you rate your coaching-related skills? Rate yourself on a scale of 0­10: 0: No skill at all in this area. 10: Expert at this skill. Looking down the list, are there any that you would like to develop? Would others who know you mark you in the same way? Why not ask? TA B L e 19.a Listening actively Asking good questions Holding silences