Quick Ideas 126 to 128 Also, focus on the facts of the matter. Set your personal biases or dislikes about the person to the side, and keep to the points that are in disagreement. You'll also want to watch any general statements, too, such as: "Kate, you always do this!" That's not only unfair, it's also immature. And, finally, keep the matter between you and the other per- son, if the situation allows. Some people will argue an issue openly in a meeting, which makes everyone uncomfortable and often does irreparable damage to the relationship. Keeping it between the two of you is simple. Ask to take the conversation "offline" for another time, discuss it calmly later, and resist the temptation to talk about it with others in the office--or tattle to the boss, if the other party is a coworker. Fighting fair also means giving the other person the benefit of the doubt whenever you can. Remember: Most people are work- ing from good intentions. Let that thought lead your comments