151 Quick Ideas to Improve Your People Skills Your questions can be to clarify, or to softly challenge. For example, "Am I understanding that we're going to delay the project for another month?" Or, when challenging, you could say, "Have we considered what could happen if we take that approach?" Or try something such as, "But wouldn't it be better for all parties involved if the project was delayed for only two weeks, instead of a full month?" In short, being ask-assertive helps you to learn more about from where the person is coming, and gives her the chance to come to conclusions on her own. When you become ask-assertive, you can still get your point across without persuading, convinc- ing, or dominating. Epilogue Being ask-assertive helps you to learn more about from where the person is coming, and gives her the chance to